Posted on September 17, 2014 by Wade Danielson
In this episode Charlie Houpert takes a dive into his book, Charisma On Command, where he shares his personal story on how he went from extreme introvert to an extrovert all on his own.
In his book, Houpert gives you an in depth action guide to improving your social skills through conversing, presenting, and conveying positive feelings.
This book is perfect for all types of entrepreneurs who are introverts trapped in a comfort bubble when it comes to socializing with others or extroverts who need to polish their social listening skills and charm.
I think a lot of books that are about charisma or leadership tend to be written by researchers. Mine comes from the perspective of having lived this transformation myself. Also, roughly 1/3 of this book is dedicated to an action guide and this is something I thought was missing in everything else that I read before.
It’s a book that needs to be read from beginning to end.
Engage and interact with the people around you that you might not normally such as your cab driver and the guy behind the register. This will make them laugh, improve your energy and do the things that you want. This will keep you in a positive mood so that when you do see the investor or the CEO you are not star-struck because you are used to interacting with people on a human level and not treating people as functions of their position.
The first part of the book I quickly talk about and make the argument that charisma and social skills is something that can be learned.
The second part of the book I dive into what have been the three charismatic principles that are most important. This is not just for my own life but also a lot of analysis and research of the most charismatic people in the world. The first principle that I have found that is most foundational to charisma is having conviction. Conviction in everything you say and do is absolutely critical and I talk in this part about 12 charismatic convictions that will make everything you say more affective. It’s doing what you want while acting with integrity between what you’re thinking, saying and doing.
The next charismatic principle is energy and the importance behind it. We have all come across people in our lives that are absolutely energy sucks. A lot of people do this without realizing it. It is important to convey a positive feeling not only in your words but the way you speak. If you see someone feeling an emotion you are likely to feel it too.
The third charismatic principle is the presentation. This is about the body language, eye contact and how to do all of it in a way that is engaging and attractive to other people. One of the biggest things to consider from eye contact is to maintain it while you’re speaking.
The last section is putting it all together and here I give you a 30 day action guide to follow. The point of this action guide is to give you small habits that you can do to actually make this a new normal in your own life.
“Charisma is learned and a skill.” – Charlie Houpert
I grew up on the east coast, lived in a bunch of different places but right now I am living in Vegas. I run a company called Charisma on Command with my best friends and co-founder. The whole point of this company is to teach people to be more charismatic and to do it on command.
I grew up incredibly shy, voted the shyest kid in my high school class of over 500 people and lived that way through college. At some point I got fed up with it, went abroad and dedicated myself to reinventing who I was. I dove into books, put myself in uncomfortable situations, took a bunch of improv classes and now people come up to me surprised how outgoing and comfortable I am. This has transformed my life more profoundly than anything else I’ve done and something I really enjoy sharing with other people.
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Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
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