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]]>In this episode Amy Morin reveals all her insights on 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do where she helps you train your brain for success and happiness.
In her book Morin combines interesting stories with simple solutions that will take your outlook on life to the next level when it comes to health, wealth, and relationships. The goal of the book is to teach you how to overcome the bad habits that suppress success, how to strengthen your mental capacity, how to cope with the setbacks of life, and how to avoid negative behaviors.
This book is perfect for entrepreneurs that are tired of feeling sorry for their selves, being jealous of other people’s success, and holding personal grudges from failure.
There are some other books on mental toughness but I found that a lot of times a lot of people focus on being tough instead of acting strong. I don’t know of any other books on the market that are specifically about mental strength and how to become stronger regardless of whether your goal is to become strong in your personal life or your business.
My book is divided up into 13 chapters, one chapter for each of those 13 things. I find that some people focus specifically on the chapter that affects them most but you can very well read straight through.
The biggest thing is to change the way we think. We know that if people want to change the way we feel we have to change how we think and change how we behave. One simple way to do that is to practice gratitude on a regular basis.
My book starts out with the introduction which gives a little about my personal journey and the story behind it. And it also gives an overview of what mental strength really is and explains why I talk about what mentally strong people don’t do.
From there we dive into the 13 chapters which focus on each of the 13 things. The first one is that mentally strong people don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. For every moment you spend focusing on the problem you can’t look at a solution and it keeps you stuck and you don’t move forward.
Chapter two talks about how mentally strong people don’t give away their power. And by that I mean it’s a combination of emotions and blame other people for the things we do. Sometimes just changing our language and the way we view things can make a big difference in recognizing the choices we have in everyday life.
Chapter three is that mentally strong people don’t shy away from change. We all like to stay in our comfort zones but when we do that we don’t grow better and take on new opportunities and become the people we won’t to be in life.
Chapter four is that mentally strong people don’t waste energy on things they can’t control. If we put our energy into the things we can control we’d be much better prepared for if something bad does happen.
Chapter five is that mentally strong people don’t worry about pleasing everyone. So often I think it becomes a problem where people lose sight of their values.
Chapter six is about how mentally strong people don’t fear taking calculated risks. You need to figure out how to accurately calculate the real risk and when you do that you can’t make choices that aren’t so scary anymore.
Chapter seven is that mentally strong people don’t dwell on the past. The solution is to figure out how to make peace with the past and sometimes that’s a matter of letting go or forgiving.
Chapter eight is about how they don’t make the same mistakes over and over. We all know that it would be great if we learned from our mistakes the first time but sadly we don’t and so it’s all about figuring out how to learn from each one.
Chapter nine is that mentally strong people don’t resent other peoples success. It’s usually easy to be happy for other people when you are on top but when you feel like you are on the bottom it seems to be a lot harder to be happy for others.
Chapter ten is that mentally strong people don’t give up after their first failure.
Chapter eleven is that mentally strong people don’t fear alone time and what I mean by that it’s really about being alone with your thoughts.
Chapter twelve is that mentally strong people don’t feel that the world owes them anything.
Finally, chapter thirteen is about how mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results.
At the end of the book we have a conclusion that explains how to move forward and how to keep building mental strength on a daily basis.
NOTE: That was just a summary. To get the full deep dive, play the audio clip at 06:56
“Never allow inaccurate beliefs about yourself to hold you back from reaching your greatest potential.” – Amy Morin
I am a license clinical social worker and psychotherapist. I am also a college psychology instructor and a few years ago I started writing articles for the web and now I write for places like Forbes and Psychology Today.
It had started out as an article and then morphed into a book from there. The reason I had written the article was because of some personal issues that were going on in my life. As a therapist I inherently was interested in psychology and mental strength in general but back in 2003 my journey became personal. I had just bought my first house, I was married and things were looking good when my mother passed away suddenly from a brain aneurism and I had to figure out how to publicly help people still deal with their problems when I am very privately grieving. And if you fast forward to three more years my 26 year old husband died suddenly of a heart attack and again had to figure out how to go to work to help people with the same problems that I was facing. I knew then that I had to sort out the things and tools I needed to do to become the very best that I can so that I can balance these two things in my life. If you fast forward a few more years things were looking up and I decided to get remarried but shortly after that my father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer and unlike the sudden death of my mother and husband this time I knew what was coming. That is when I sat down and wrote this list of 13 things mentally strong people don’t do to basically remind myself of the things that could hold me back in life if I allowed them to.
The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch
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]]>A summary of things you should know about Performing Under Pressure according to Hendrie Weisinger: Introduction In this episode Hendrie Weisinger takes a deep dive into his and J.P. Pawliw-Fry’sRead More
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]]>In this episode Hendrie Weisinger takes a deep dive into his and J.P. Pawliw-Fry’s book, Performing Under Pressure, where they provide solutions to the consequences of pressure management.
In their book Drs. Weisinger and Pawliw-Fry provide 22 success strategies that comprise of the latest research on neuroscience and from the experiences of over 12,000 employees at Fortune 500 companies. The goal of the book is to help you reduce pressure in your personal life and overcome diminishing performance in your professional life.
This book is perfect for entrepreneurs who consistently working on new projects are not used to working under pressure when it comes to work, school, or even sports.
What makes it different is that most people focus simply on performance and I study the subject of pressure as a separate entity. In the first section of the book the reader will find a deep understanding of what pressure is and how it will impact our lives.
The book is structured into three different sections and each section makes a contribution to the reader and gives strategies and techniques that are highly accessible. You can read the book in any order you prefer.
It is the reality that nobody performs under pressure. The message of the book is to protect yourself against these injurious effects of pressure by learning how to apply pressure solutions and building your COTE of armor.
The book is structured into three parts; part one, part two, and part three. The first part really familiarizes the reader with understanding what I like to call the nature of pressure. In the first few chapters I discuss a lot of what I like to call the pressure myths dispelled. The reality is many times we do less than our best but we do not do better than our best because that would be impossible. In this first section the reader will get a complete knowledge space about everything they need to know about pressure.
Part two of the book is about what I call the pressure solutions. These are 22 strategies that are instantly accessible and the reason these work is that they reduce the negative feelings such as embarrassment, anxiety, and fear that pressure creates. These solutions help immunize you against the negative effects of pressure.
Part three deals with what we call the long-term strategies for dealing with pressure, building your COTE (confidence, optimism, tenacity, enthusiasm) of armor. The last section of the book is how to instill these attributes in yourself. We offer a blueprint for creating these traits that are highly correlated with success.
NOTE: That was just a summary. To get the full deep dive, play the audio clip at 09:47
“Affirm yourself, be positive every day, commit to your best, and celebrate. These four simple actions will give you your best possible life and you can ride with the four horsemen.” – Hendrie Weisinger
I am currently living in the state of Connecticut. I am a psychologist by trade and spent much of my career working with organizations, Fortune 500 Companies, etc. around the subject of emotional intelligence, giving and taking criticism, and managing anger. I’ve taught in many business schools such as UCLA, NYU, and MIT. In the last decade I have been doing a lot of work on the subject managing pressure.
The inspiration was a collection of experiences that got me into the direction of looking at how people perform under pressure situations and why some people are able to do it effectively and some people aren’t.
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
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]]>A summary of things you should know about The One Thing according to Jay Papasan: Introduction In this episode Jay Papasan reveals all his insights on his and Gary Keller’sRead More
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]]>In this episode Jay Papasan reveals all his insights on his and Gary Keller’s national bestseller, The One Thing where they reveal the surprisingly simple truth behind achieving extraordinary results.
In their book Papasan and Keller provide you with a simple yet effective approach to improving the results in every area of your life including your work, personal health, relationships, and inner spirit. The goal of the book is to help you be more productive, become healthy and fit, increase your paycheck, boost business sales, build a career, and nurture stronger relationships with others.
This book is perfect for entrepreneurs that are tired of living mediocre lives and need an actionable system that will help them achieve results they never thought possible.
I think the combination of the way I write and the way Gary thinks is we are both very practical. I think we have a proven system and our ways to implement it is what makes all the difference.
We organized the book as teachers and coaches by what they needed first.
I want people to internalize this idea of the focusing question. I think a lot of times we are not appropriate in our moments because we are not really clear about where we are going. When you know what your one thing is you need to hold on to it because that allows you to say no to stuff.
I think that we are living as business people in a time through technology, through a connected flat world, where we have unlimited opportunity. The things that we can say yes to in terms of business opportunities, people, and networking opportunities, are really crazy and we haven’t evolved to having an understand of what we really need to say no to.
There are six lies that we believe that we think makes sense but in reality they don’t. One of the six lies is that everything matters equally. That in a world of too many choices, too many obligations, and a to-do list that get too long, in our rush to do everything we end up treating everything as if it’s equal. The first big lesson of the book is taking the idea of priority and applying it to our to-do list. Take your list of all the things you could do and identify the things that you should do, and do those first.
The next big thing that gets in the way is when people try to do two things at once and call it multitasking. Research shows that when you try to do two things at once you lose time and efficiency.
In the heart of the book is a very humble question we call The Focusing Question. And if there was one habit we wanted people to take away it’s this idea right now of knowing your number one priorty. And we want them to say this question… What’s the one thing I can do, such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary? This question was formed through years and years of consulting with entrepreneurs.
When you identify your one thing, the best way to get people to do it is to make an appointment with themselves to do it. In our research the most successful people use their calendars primarily not to meet with other people, but to schedule time for themselves to do their most important work. So identify your one thing, you make an appointment with yourself to do it on a regular basis, and then you let that lead your results.
What we saw is that a lot of people would have the appointment show up but they would not have a place where they could effectively work. So we teach people to build a bunker, find a place in your life that you can really get focused and be able to give your full attention to the things that matter most. Also, store provisions, once you have that place you need to make sure that you have everything that you need to work. You also want to turn off any electronics that could possibly distract you from your one thing. And lastly you want to enlist support. People always underestimate how much the people in their environment will come and help them if they will just tell them why keeping this time is important.
NOTE: That was just a summary. To get the full deep dive, play the audio clip at 06:14
“You need to be doing less with more effect instead of doing more with side effects.” – Jay Papasan
I live in Austin, Texas. My wife runs a highly successful real estate team here called The Papasan Property Group and we have two kids, Gus and Veronica. In the big picture I grew up in Memphis Tennessee, spent about 20 years in publishing before settling with my family here in Austin to be a writer.
My Co-author is Gary Keller and he founded Keller Williams Realty which is now the largest Real Estate franchise company in the world. In the course of working on an education piece for the company I was writing with him on some real estate books and he wrote an essay called The Power of One and I had a ah-ha moment. From that I realized that this is Gary’s one thing. So as soon as I read that eight page essay we dug in and spent about five years researching and trying to identity exactly his techniques and how they lined up with other successful entrepreneurs.
Managing Oneself by Peter Drucker
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]]>A summary of things you should know about Inside Job according to Mark Sephton: Introduction In this episode Mark Sephton reveals all his insights on his book, Inside Job whereRead More
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]]>In this episode Mark Sephton reveals all his insights on his book, Inside Job where he shares earth-shattering methods and mindset shifts that will turn failing businesses around.
In his book Sephton provides an inside look into his personal struggles with entrepreneurship along many other success stories that have resulted in the ability to turn dreams into reality. The goal of the book is to help you strengthen your mindset, build your character, harvest your thoughts, and stimulate your personal growth in order to turn your struggles into actionable advantages to achieve your dreams.
This book is for entrepreneurs who are struggling with their inner abilities to overcome entrepreneurial failure and need help in developing a stronger mindset that will get them through their struggles.
I share my own story in the first few chapters because I really want people, when they read the book, to understand that I wasn’t born with a silver spoon and I went through many setbacks to get where I am today. This book isn’t just about business but also about connecting your heart with your head.
The reader can jump in and out of the book. There are 23 chapters in the book and 20 of them are only 3 to 5 pages long.
The whole book is really about how we are only as good as the thoughts we think. We have got to be mindful of the fact that once we find out who we are, and what we were created to do, that then is when we really start to live. Sadly some people go to the graveyard not knowing who they are.
The first few chapters are very much about my own journey and I’ve titled them Discover, Imagine, and Achieve. Discover is my childhood and what I had to go through, some of the challenges there. I really want people to be able to relate; everything I do needs to be athletic, real, and provoke people’s emotions so that they realize that I know what I am talking about. The chapter titled Imagine is about that transition from me being a teenager into becoming a man. And the Achieve chapter launches into all that I’ve achieved in the last few years.
The next chapter is titled Entrepreneurship and the concept of this chapter is about having an idea and pointing it into reality. And along those lines is the fact that we have to take risks as entrepreneurs and the ability to take a thought and put it into action. Entrepreneurship is about having a create idea and about having a market where the product or service is required because if you want to make a lot of money you’ve got to find a solution to others problems.
Chapter two I have titled Personal Revolution – Be you, everyone else is taken. It’s important that, as entrepreneurs, we create the environment and culture of an inner sniper. The whole concept of the inner sniper and creating your own personal revolution is based on the fact of what is the right environment and culture for you to be able to execute and come alive and to make sure that your business and your life really embrace that concept.
Chapter three is called Bread for Your Head. Far too many people are backseat drivers in their own lives. Bread for the head is the concept of educating your mind. I encourage and inspire people to take the wheel of their lives. If you want to change the way that your life is moving you can do that by the thoughts that you think and by what you feed your head with.
Chapter four is Focus – Life is a marathon not a sprint. Here I share some of the challenges that we have to really focus in today’s world that we live in because there are so many voices.
Chapter five is Sleep R&R and timeouts – Breaks lead to breakthroughs. I find that people often see startups as having a baby where you have to give it around the clock treatment and investment. Which I agree with but there is a time and a season to pour into that. This chapter is really about the whole concept that breaks lead to breakthroughs.
Chapter six is positive habits. It’s about making the mental shift from problems, obstacles, and excuses to solutions, thanks, and gratitude. I share some of the habits that I have formed in my own life and other entrepreneur’s life’s. One of the habits is the power of gratitude because gratitude enables you to focus on what you have and taking you away from what you don’t have.
Chapter seven is titled Love Mondays. I absolutely love Mondays and I believe that the success of your Monday will determine the rest of your week. In this chapter I share a number of rituals, journal, and prayer about my upcoming week.
Chapter eight is Value – Small victories today will change the course of tomorrow. This concept is around how we add value to our clients and our customers. Are we building our business around their needs and wants? Or are we so self-absorbed that sometimes we tailor our business around what we like and what attracts us to it?
Chapter nine is Balance – When we try to burn the candle at both ends we are destined for trouble.
Chapter ten is Self-Discovery – turn yourself loose. The concept of this chapter is about the key to a successful and fulfilled life. I believe that once you know who you are and what your purpose is, that’s when life gets exciting and so the importance of self-discovery is vital. I talk about adversity being a great opportunity for self-discovery because it’s when we go through difficult times and challenges when we really find out who we are and what we are all about.
Chapter eleven is Authenticity – we are all a working progress.
Chapter twelve is Vitality – the opposite of depression is vitality. This chapter is about combating our negative thoughts. When you fill your live with positivity it starves depression and negative thoughts.
Chapter thirteen is Fear – turn adversity into your advantage. So often we allow fear to stifle us and to hold us back.
Chapter fourteen I talk about failure. I have learned so much from my mistakes that I decided to make more. This chapter is about me sharing some of my own learnings that I’ve messed up on and to encourage other people that when they do fail to take the lesson from it.
Chapter fifteen is Setbacks – the only people that don’t get flat tires are those who don’t drive.
Chapter sixteen is Diversion – It’s vital we pay attention to our own mental GPS. We go through times where we get diverted and we can either shut down our project or we can find a solution. This chapter is really about unlocking the ability to be able to divert and to not give up but to find a different way to do it.
Chapter seventeen is Success. For me success is about being at peace with yourself. It’s a journey, not a destination.
Chapter eighteen is called Heart. “I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Michelangelo. The purpose of this chapter is if we are not living out of our heart, are we really living at all?
Chapter nineteen is Maxims – if you don’t change direction you end up where you are now. In this chapter I sure my 10 maxims which is being authentic, be grateful, be intentional, be a river not a reservoir, invest in yourself, expand your network, practice forgiveness, wear a smile, and do not quit.
Chapter twenty is the law of Attraction. Google it, research it, picture it, and live it. The concept of this chapter is to encourage people to get the mindset that creates the impression that it’s already within your life and how to make it a reality.
Chapter twenty-one is Influence – effect the environment in which you were planted.
Chapter twenty-two is Change Agent – Disrupting the environment for the greater good. This is a call for people to really stand up for who they are and what they believe in.
Chapter twenty-three is trailblazer. This chapter is about what impression are you going to leave behind for those who are to follow you.
NOTE: That was just a summary. To get the full deep dive, play the audio clip at 05:50
“If you don’t change direction you end up where you are now.” – Mark Sephton
I am involved in a number of things but they’ve all got the same common denominator and that is that I have a passion to positively influence all that I meet and come in to contact with. My main business is that I mentor entrepreneurs and I mentor them over a number of different ways. I build a GPS system which is based on eight key fundamentals of what I believe makes up a person’s basic DNA. What that does is it reveals blind spots. I also host a show as well where I interview entrepreneurs and I just recently launched my first book titled Inside Job.
I think everybody has got a story to tell and it was clear from working with different entrepreneurs in different fields of expertise. Some of my ideas and mentoring techniques started to pay off and I thought it was time to help reveal some of these tactics and mind shifts.
Spirit Driven Success by Dani Johnson
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